Back to School, Back to Self: Sex/uality in College

By Elissa Rosenberg

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The start of a new school year buzzes with possibility: new classes, new independence, new connections. But for many students, college isn’t just about academics. It’s also a time of exploration—of identity, relationships, and sexuality.

And yet, sexual health and wellness are often left out of the “back-to-school” checklist. Let’s change that.

Why College Is a Turning Point

Developmentally, the college years are a stage of “emerging adulthood.” Students are learning how to balance freedom and responsibility while shaping long-term values. Sexuality and relationships sit right at the center of this process, even if they aren’t openly discussed.

Unfortunately, many arrive on campus with gaps in knowledge or confidence. High school sex education may have been minimal, shame-based, or skipped entirely. That silence doesn’t just disappear in college—it follows students into their new relationships and choices.

The Challenges on Campus

College introduces unique dynamics that can feel exciting, overwhelming, or confusing:

• Hookup culture & peer pressure – What feels normal, expected, or stigmatized.

• Alcohol and parties – How substances impact consent and decision-making.

• Identity exploration – Questions of sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship style.

• Mixed messages – From peers, media, or even family about what’s “okay” or “too much.”

Without tools for navigating these challenges, students may feel unprepared, ashamed, or unsafe.

Building a Healthy Foundation

Sexual health isn’t just about protection—it’s about connection, communication, and self-knowledge.

• Consent & Communication – The ability to set boundaries and express needs clearly.

• Pleasure & Self-Knowledge – Understanding your own body and desires as a path to confidence.

• Resources & Support – Knowing where to turn: campus health centers, LGBTQ+ orgs, and therapy.

These skills create a foundation not just for healthy sexuality, but also for healthier relationships and stronger selfhood.

For Parents, Too

Parents often wonder: How can I support my student without overstepping? The truth is, college is a transition for parents as well.

• Adjusting to an empty nest can spark unexpected grief or identity shifts.

• Reframing your role means supporting without shaming, encouraging open dialogue, and trusting your student’s growth.

• Sometimes, your own questions and emotions around this stage need a supportive space too.

The Bottom Line

Back to school isn’t only about academics—it’s about returning to the self, with all the growth and challenges that come with it. Supporting sexual health and wellness is essential for students stepping into adulthood and for parents adjusting to new roles.

Whether you’re a student navigating independence, identity, and relationships—or a parent processing your own transitions—therapy offers a safe space to explore, reflect, and grow.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

I offer therapy for both students and parents as they navigate this exciting, sometimes overwhelming stage of life.

For students: A space to build confidence, clarify values, and connect with your sexual self in healthy, empowering ways.

For parents: Support as you adjust to shifting family roles, empty-nest transitions, and your own evolving identity.

Curious to learn more?

Schedule your free 15-minute consultation call today and take the first step toward a grounded, confident, and connected year ahead.